Maturity doesn’t always come with age or how long you’ve been going to church. It’s about your heart, so guard your heart with all diligence for out it flows the issues of life (Proverbs 4:23)
Antaeus was son of the god Poseidon (chelid ra daob) and Gaea (Chelid ra chutem), one of the Gigantes (giants), in Greek mythology. A great winning wrestler as long as he remained in contact with his mother, Earth. He was invincible while he was in contact with her; he challenged people who passed by his area to wrestling matches, in which he always won killed them in the end.
When we get rid of things we actually clear a space not only in a physical sense but mentally as well. For me cleaning out stuff can therefore be a kind of meditation. To forgive those who failed us is a REAL BIG TIME SPRING CLEANING. It’s a sweet release for the inner child.
Attachment trauma were created in relationships that fell short, that did not provide for us emotional connections. We were denied limbic connection – no mirroring. Mirroring is what apostle Paul writes to the Romans (12 :15) to rejoice with those who rejoice and weep with those who weep. It’s a developed emotional attunement. When there’s no emotional connection, there’s no connecting to our nervous system and we shut down ànd we experience trauma. Because there’s no connection… anxiety kicks in and you feel unsafe. This is the simplest way I can understand trauma.
Years ago I learned to watch movies and interpret it per my perspective to make sense not just entertainment. Yesterday I watched Adam’s Project, the movie, with Ryan Reynolds. Wonderful story. It revealed the concept of healing the inner child in a highly sophisticated computer sci-fi movie. A father died. And the eleven year old is bullied. He resents his mother. Then the 30 year old man came to him. This is where the relationship and healing of the adolescent boy Adam Reed begins. The relationship between the 30 year Adam Reed, the man and his 11 year old self is being healed. They time traveled to heal each stage of his development. Then they met their genius father. In the end they went into the lab, the mind, with their father to destroy the program the father created. The eleven year old is watching outside with a remote control. I saw it as breaking the generational curse that kept them locked in the cycle of shame, pain, and fear. It was well written. I was amazed because it was played out inside this huge computer. And together they destroyed the programming and healed the little boy. I hope you get to see the movie.
Healing will come into maturing the inner child. We coach and counsel our inner child. Yes you can heal yourself. As a coach you ask, “Do you need help with attaining your goals?” As a counselor you exhort, “You need help in addressing this issue that hinders your growth.” Your job in helping yourself is to know your roles: One is to inspire and the other encourage. And be real about it. Like Anteaus we have to come to a place where we are grounded in reality.
God what we don’t know teach us. What we have not give us. What we are not make us for your Son’s sake. Amen