Let go of the things that can no longer be fixed. If you force to try to put them back, things will only get worse. Holding on is being brave but moving on makes you tougher. ~Unknown
Through the years of writing this column have taught me to grow, to move on, and getting to know “me” in a different light. Getting to know others and to understand human beings. That whatever happened to me really didn’t. They happened FOR me. They gave me an opportunity to synchronize, to take what’s beneficial and throw away the garbage. Synchronization is more, not less, than what I believe what Paul meant in Romans 8:28. And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose. – Romans 8:28 (NIV) The Living Bible translation words it this way: “And we know that all that happens to us is working for our good if we love God and are fitting into his plans.”
Almost all of my life from childhood until now, there was always someone or somebody telling me what I “should” or “should not” do. Some tells me what’s wrong or missing in my life. Or “the reason” you are this and that is this or that. It can be a word, a sentence or paragraph. It is a form of manipulation to make you question your sanity. I just learned not to respond defensively because it doesn’t help. But I do question if I need fixing. Yes, of course we all need some improvement to mature and grow but not what “they” think or say. But how you synchronize your mind, emotions, and your freewill to work for you not against you. I do this before I go to sleep. It gives me peace.
When I truly internalized the meaning of psychological projection I stopped minding criticism and unsolicited advise. I learned to take them in stride understanding that they’re all projections of their own fears and anxieties. It is a self defense mechanism characterized by a person unconsciously attributing their own issues onto someone or something else as a form of delusion or denial. I’m sure there were times when you wanted to say “Hey go look in the mirror. Tiang chesbochb el delbard era medam e mesaod ra chieb ra medak!” My own version of Matthew 7:3.
These are not safe people. They are dangerous people. They usually think childishly. They stagnate self centered people. Tekora kesuar ra taoch ra Sechemus. Sellolemiakl a chimong e totemetii el meriou e chodelcheklii. It takes courage to let go of such people if you want to grow strong as a woman. Courage help you value your life as God does. Courage helps you to see yourself as a woman of 70 and no longer at 30 and synchronize. That’s how I find peace ~ accept now as it presents itself. To recognize our limitations helps us move forward. Remember the lessons we learned in the past but don’t live there. Live in the present and dream of the future.
Happy weekend! Remember that you don’t need a position to validate your existence! Just be you! Always synchronize.