Never argue with stupid people, they will drag you down to their level then beat you with experience.  -Mark Twain

I remember going to driver’s school when the instructor said something that I will never forget. She said,  “Always assume that the driver in the other car is stupid.”  I took her advice to heart.  I have never had a car accident ever since I started driving anywhere I happened to be. It’s good for the mind. And it kept me driving safely in a congested traffic and remain in my lane, listen to music or some talk show and not be bothered with the drivers around me – I.e.,  front, sides on left and right, and those behind me.  Paying attention to the surrounding areas I can’t see but hear to maintain safety measures in my surrounding.

Experts say about emotional detachment, “In this sense it can allow people to maintain boundaries, psychic integrity and avoid undesired impact by or upon others, related to emotional demands.”

We detach emotionally to avoid unnecessary stress and misunderstanding that can destroy relationships.  It is in its very core a “stay within your boundaries” or “it’s really none of my business” strategy.  It’s healthier. I don’t have to spend time on something that’s not beneficial to my growth as a person.

Romans 1:29; 2 Corinthians 12:20 – Both differentiate gossip from slander and condemn it as the result of a depraved mind, unfitting…  1 Timothy 5:13; 2 Thessalonians 3:11 – Both condemn “busybodies” who “speak about things not proper to mention.”

Busybodies (busybuddies) are like a dog with a bone. Ngdi mengedoched er ngii e melekoi arengul e diak lolengull.  My grandfather said, “te di smilk a dingad”. It made me realize why our ear canal has wax. They are to keep the dirt from getting into our inner.  Whoever got your ear got your life.  We choose what we listen to, who we talk to and what we say to maintain our integrity and healthy boundaries.

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