To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.  – Ralph Waldo Emerson

We can easily deceive ourselves by the choices we make as from a sound reasoning even when it is emotionally charged or intellectually motivated.   Dr. Chirban writes, “Our True Self is defined by seven intrinsic qualities.  He calls them gifts to ourselves.  They are:   Spontaneity, Reasoning,  Creativity,  Free Will,  Spirituality, Discernment, and Love.  Previous articles addressed the first three.


Human beings uniquely possess these qualities, and they are given to each of us. The true self is not reserved for those who have devoted their lives to becoming religious or even mystics. We are born with these resources which are available to all of us at any time.  We just need to find them, develop them, and use them to their full extent to make our lives better.
These seven gifts guide us from within and define our unique nature. We may nurture these qualities or we may take them for granted; if we choose the latter course, our life will be opened and filled by meaningful opportunities.  If we choose not to nurture and cultivate them, we will remain wanting and helpless, functioning at a level far lower than our potential. The latter is a real character of a false-self- always looking for others’ approval.  Nevertheless, even if we fail to utilize them, these qualities lie dormant, for we never lose them. They exist within us, waiting for us to awaken them.  Scripture says that ‘every good gift and every perfect gift is from above…there is no variation or shadow of turning.’  This expresses the goodness of receiving from our Creator and the perfect quality of whatever He gives.   And, His gift giving is continuously good, and His gifts are always perfect.

Parents need to awaken these gifts in their children by giving them freedom to express themselves spontaneously, to reason before making choices, especially your ADD (Attention Deficit Disorder) child. Failing to do so tend to send them off to self-destructive behaviors.  Children are precious gifts to us parents to understand ourselves, because ADD is inherited.  They simply have a restless brain.  ADD kids love taking risk, whose honesty can be annoying.  They are quick and discerning; always on the lookout for something new and exciting to make their lives better.  What enters their minds come out of their mouths that can be very irritating, especially to teachers in classrooms.  But these kids are creatively ingenious.  Some come through as “old soul” knowing things they have not yet been told or taught.  Awakening their gifts build their self-worth.  Children with self-worth are courageous, unafraid to stand alone even when they encounter peer pressure.
A child with self-worth is a child with high self-esteem as unique individual with a healthy free-will.
 Free will is our ability to choose. Moreover, it is our ability to think outside ourselves – to gain an observational sense of our situation.  Exercising free-will, we recognize that we can draw upon our own voice, rather than echo what we have been told.  By examining the choices we have, we can establish our voice in relation to others and feel integrity in our position.  [/restrict]