I’ve been following The Chosen on YouTube.  It is a series of the life of Christ and his chosen disciples.  Peter and Andrew, James and John – the famous two sets of brothers Jesus called on the shores of Galilee.  Season One is complete so you can see all eight episodes. The Season Two is coming in April this year.  Dallas Jenkins, the son of the Left Behind novels Jerry Jenkins, is the creator and director of the Chosen. He’s the son of author of the Left Behind series of novels. The Chosen made me go back to the gospels over and over.  I hope you check it out.  Of course, Simon Peter and Andrew are the first be called to follow Jesus, then James and John.  In Matthew 18:21 Peter came to Jesus and asked, “Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother and sister who sins against me?  Up to seven times?”

Jesus replied, “I tell you, not seven times, but seventy times seven.”

To have a healthy heart, we must forgive those who hurt us. The reason is simple: Bitterness and unforgiveness set their hooks deep in our hearts; they are chains that hold us captive to the wounds and the messages of those wounds. Until you forgive, you remain their prisoner. Paul warns us that unforgiveness and bitterness can wreck our lives and the lives of others (Eph. 4:31; Heb. 12:15). We have to let it all go.  Forgive as the Lord forgave you. (Col. 3:13).  It is not easy but the more you think about it, you realize that you’ve been holding grudge over something you may not recall all the detail of the offense.

Now—listen carefully. Forgiveness is a choice. It is not a feeling—don’t try and feel forgiving. It is an act of the will. “Don’t wait to forgive until you feel like forgiving,” wrote Neil Anderson. “You will never get there. Feelings take time to heal after the choice to forgive is made.” We allow God to bring the hurt up from our past, for “if your forgiveness doesn’t visit the emotional core of your life, it will be incomplete,” said Anderson. We acknowledge that it hurt, that it mattered, and we choose to extend forgiveness to our fathers, our mothers, those who hurt us. This is not saying, “It didn’t really matter”; it is not saying, “I probably deserved part of it anyway.” Forgiveness says, “It was wrong. Very wrong. It mattered, hurt me deeply. And I release you. I give you to God. I will not be your captive here any longer.”

It might help to remember that those who hurt you were also deeply wounded themselves. They were broken hearts, broken when they were young, and they fell captive to the Enemy. They were in fact pawns in his hands. This doesn’t free them of the choices they made, the things they did. It just helps us to let them go—to realize that they were shattered souls themselves, used by our true Enemy.

Forgiveness is a process. You may need to forgive the same offense more than once, until you don’t feel the hurt even when you recall the offense.

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