We write to taste life twice, in the moment and in retrospect. – Anais Nin
It’s sad day in creation when a good mind bearing the image of God is being wasted because you are not allowed to think freely. Your mind had been indoctrinated to think like the rest of the herd. In other words, you’ve been brainwashed to think you ought to fall in line or be ejected – expelled. Or dispossessed. One of our worst fears of life is finding ourselves homeless – not belonging. I still remember how I used to think and how it affected my life. It was a life of fear and shame. A life of posturing and positioning just be in. I was afraid to think for myself and believed I didn’t have a choice. The fear of being dispossessed was intense that literally took away my true “self”. On this journey I have come to understand why I’ve been ousted, rejected, accused of being anything but a Christian.” I take comfort in what Paul wrote in his second letter to Timothy while in prison in Rome, “But I know whom I have believed and am persuaded that He (Jesus) is able to keep that which I have entrusted unto Him against that day.” (2 Timothy 1:12). The irony is: many read and sing that which is written in the Word, still they are afraid of man than God.
Remember, it’s a process – a journey until the truth is embedded in our brain called integration work that can change our behavior.
Human beings were created with freedom in every fiber of their being. I mean look at how they take over at conception. The mother gets morning sickness and she no longer controls her own body. On the nine months in the womb, that child is saying, “OK time to get outa here.” They need to be free. In all that time from birth to five years old, you should’ve taught him/her the difference between good and evil. Sometimes we just have to let them put their finger on the fire and burn so they won’t touch it again. They need to make their own mistakes and learn from them?” I can be radical in my views but if you want to affect change, you have to start at the root. I think it means, Ke di kimdii ra chollemelel. If you want to make a change in your life, you start at the root. This requires brutal honesty. If not at the root, problem will reoccur over, and over again. Ngkora chemull el di dubch a lak bedelii a risel.
Most people are smart. The only reason we don’t have a healthy relationship with ourselves and others is due to cognitive distortion and attachment trauma. We’ve been taught to see the world as others do, not as it is. It’s projection!
The trick to reverse attachment trauma is to acknowledge it and tell God about it. Invite Christ to come in and heal and begin the restoration process.