Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards. -Soren Kierkegaard
We cannot avoid the past if we want be healed of our deep wounds and mature and engage in a healthy relationships.
Trauma is a violation of a relationships.
There are two kinds of traumas: 1) bad things that happened and 2) good things that didn’t happen.
“I wasn’t beaten or starved as a child growing up. I was just not wanted. I was neglected.” Explained Dr. Charles R. Swindoll of his childhood trauma from his parents.
Dr Swindoll is my favorite teacher, speaker, and author. I’ve been listening to his teaching on the radio since 1993. These days I watch him on YouTube. Listening to Chuck Swindoll speaking about his (adverse childhood experiences) trauma was shocking. WOW! Indeed God really turn tears into joy.
I lived in Los Angeles County for over 20 years. I loved it. It’s a beautiful city. The tallest building is Wilshire Grand Center. Such an amazing architectural design – curvilinear silhouette. The buildings in LA follow building code especially the height limit on buildings due to earthquakes.
Good architecture begins with a strong foundation.
Jesus told a story of two kinds of people. The wise and the foolish. The wise build his house on the rock while the foolish build on the sand. The idea is a strong foundation will hold the whole of your person in the storms, typhoons, earthquakes, tornadoes or tsunami. Matthew 7:24-29. Just as child’s early experiences affect the development of brain architecture, which provides the foundation for all future learning, behavior, and health. Just as a weak foundation compromises the quality and strength of a house, Adverse Childhood Experiences (trauma) early in life can impair brain architecture, with negative effects lasting into adulthood.
When I learned about trauma, I knew that my suspicion was true. Something was wrong with me. I pointed to parts of my head (brain) asking GOD to heal the damages and restore my prefrontal cortex. As GOD began to heal and grow my joy center – the only part of the brain that never stop growing, God increased my ability to concentrate and comprehend the materials and retain them. Not verbatim but the essence of the subject.
The more we grow the more we thirst for knowledge, to integrate God’s word to consciousness; the journey of a lifetime — from the head to the heart.
“…Weeping may last for the night, But a joy comes in the morning” (Psalm 30:5, NASB).
Bonus: Our wounds are choosing our intimate partners.