Life really does begin at forty. Up until then, you are just doing research. – Carl Jung
Most self-help teaching does not tell you that your problem is a result of your childhood starting at age zero to nineteen.
I’m a believer of cause and effect. I suppose this is where it begins for a child to ask “Why”. I do believe that one must find out the cause.
Adverse childhood experiences such are: experiencing violence, abuse, or neglect at home and community, & family member attempt or die by suicide
Adverse childhood experiences leads to a lot of psychological and physical problems. It’s been studied and reported in many articles, books, and teachings.
I always knew something was off-center in my head. I had to find out. It began more than 40 years ago. The journey to wholeness began.
The art of Mindfulness
When you’re mindful, you’re not replaying past mistakes or pre-living future worries. You’re tuned into what’s happening right here, right now. And guess what? Right now is generally a pretty peaceful place.
I asked GOD to discipline my neurotic inner child to be in the present. Very difficult take on. Being in the present made me learn with the help of God to think and feel “now”. It’s a difficult process because of self-pity. Self-pity like rain dampen your hair and wet you clothes. You can catch cold. I prayed “GOD help me break out of self-pity and find myself.”
One thing I learned about self-pity is that it is arrogant to think you’re the only one suffering. Hard to swallow, but it was the only way to heal. We are never alone in our suffering. Dr. CARL ROGERS once said, “What is most personal is most universal.”
A child in Brazil or Los Angeles may have been neglected too just like the child in Palau. I suppose I suppose I’m not so special. Very humbling.
However, it happened to you. So hang on to the lesson in the experience and get out-a there.
Fanny Crosby, a blind woman, wrote a hymn that has become my hiding place when I’m afraid.
“He hideth my soul in the cleft of the rock that shadows a dry, thirsty land. He hideth my life in the depths of his love,
and covers me there with his hand.”