Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it. – Proverbs 4 23
To forgive is easy in theory but is so profoundly difficult. Know that emotional abuse will not stop because life is difficult. And the insecures need to soothe themselves by bullying, abusing and shaming you.
Emotional abuse involves controlling another person by using emotions to criticize, embarrass, shame, blame, or otherwise manipulate them.
One thing that seems to keep coming up to trigger the childhood wound of rejection is being ostracized. It’s the memories of little things that keep you from healing. So we keep at it trusting the author of our faith.
It is toxic shame at its best.
We carry shame in the mind and the body. We believe we are fundamentally bad. We were deceived to think it was our fault.
Children who have experienced emotional abuse may continue to feel its effects into adulthood. These can include extremely low self-esteem, negative or toxic relationships, and other physical or mental health effects like Narcissistic Personality Disorder or Echoism.
“Echoism is a traumatic reaction from having been rejected,” Says Dr. Mei-Chuan Wang.
While narcissists are self absorbed and lack empathy, an echoist struggles to ask for anything they want or need. They are people pleaser.
To heal these toxic emotions is to simply acknowledge the wound, the pain and suffering and forgive them. It doesn’t mean we go on vacation with them. Forgiveness is to free you so you don’t have to live in a cage. Forgive seven times seventy.
Genghis Khan was asked how he won all the cities for his empire. He replied, “We bribed the guards at the gate.”
Our mind is the gate to our whole being – body, mind, soul, and spirit. So place a guard at the gate with the sword [of the spirit]. Be the parent you wished you had. Be kind to yourself and remind yourself daily… that you are loved, precious jewel in the Crown or your creator. Zechariah 9:16.
Paul writes to the Philippians (1:6 AMP)
I am convinced and confident of this very thing, that He who has begun a good work in you will [continue to] perfect and complete it until the day of Christ Jesus [the time of His return].
Remember me loving you. ♡♡♡