A young friend asked, “Why so much negative people?”
Perhaps it’s all they know.
It’s self- elevating behavior that makes one feel better with oneself by putting someone else’s down.
The phrase “out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks” is from Matthew 12:34 in the Bible. It emphasizes that our words are a reflection of our inner character and state of the mind. This works both ways.
Perhaps that’s all they heard growing up. We are very much a product of our upbringing. That being negative seems normal. It’s not normal, it’s toxic.
Growth begins where blame ends. John Powell
I was overly criticized as a child growing up that it took a lot of original work of the mind and emotions to recognize my needs and choose to love my Self, set my boundaries and practice self-awareness. Listen to my own thought-life, my relationship to myself and my environment.
A toxic person will try to control others either in clear and obvious ways or through subtle manipulation. They will
Always play the victim and make you feel crazy (gaslighting)
Need to be right.
Blame game
Highly critical
Green eyed monster (jealous).
Always remember that you were once alone, and the crowd you see in your life today are just as unecessary as when you were alone. Toxic people attach themselves like cinder blocks tied to your ankles, and then invite you for a swim in their poisoned waters. (Anonymous)
Respect yourself enough to walk away from a toxic person and focus on your healing process and growth – maturity.
Remember it’s a journey, not a one time event.