“Unconditional love means not expecting anything in return but cherishing the happiness of the person you love.” -Anonymous
The first year of my inner healming of deep wounds was very hard at first. Retrieving some repressed memories were close to being unbearable. They frightened me. I wanted to stop. At the same time I was curious with a deep need to be free of the pain in my heart and soulà. Like a toothache the pain that was dragging me down chased away my fear of dentist. My need to be free from pain and sorrow were stronger than my fear. I’m so very glad I did.
So I faced retrieved memories believing GOD was there with me in those memories. God’s unconditional love carried me through my fear of failure and intense shame of being short of their glory. It was clear that one of the deepest wounds in my heart was I was not loved. If I did three good things I was admired but it didn’t last. When I made a wrong move I immediately lost the love I needed. But it was admiration not love. Now I know in my soul and spirit, mind, heart and will that I’m loved (with warts all) by GOD, my Creator.
Psychology says, “Receiving Love Feels Like an Identity Crisis.
“People with low self-esteem may enter an identity crisis when they receive affection. Compliments highlight the gap between how they are viewed and how they feel about themselves, making them feel misunderstood and pressured to fulfill others’ high expectations.”
Knowing that you’re accepted and loved by the GOD who created all that is seen and unseen is what you all need to feel safe to feel pretty good about yourself whether admired or not. With this truth we can give love as Martin Luther King Jr., said, “The greatest gift that you can give to others is the gift of LOVE UNCONDITIONAL and ACCEPTANCE.”
Live with a heart of Gratitude … be thankful in all circumstances. Thanksgiving changes the trajectory of our story.