When you don’t know how to say ‘no’ your body will say it for you. –Gabor Mate
In my adolescent years I was reared to serve others unconditionally. “Don’t be so selfish.” I was apprised. My body was screaming, “NO!” I was tired and exhausted. I’m 14. Can I go play? I couldn’t hear my body. Losing father left me fear, no, terrified of abandonment making an absolute codependent. Running away to medicate the pain with my choice of drugs.
Codependency is an unhealthy dependence on relationships. The codependent will do anything to hold on to a relationship; to avoid that fear, that painful feeling of abandonment. It’s so deep in the subconscious. It is
hidden in the brain like an invisible drver that controls the wheel.
Codependent has an extreme need for approval and recognition. A sense of guilt and shame when asserting themselves. A compelling need to control others. It’s like having a constant civil war in the soul. It’s stress.
I see results clearly how auto-immune disease (and cancer is developed through the years. Stress is going against the grain just to be accepted (and loved). Like a rubber band stretched out to do to please others and then let go… used and abused.
I had a plan but God had a different plan. I can see clearly now that I didn’t lose my physical strength, I gained my life. God took me away to transform my life. He’s a very gracious God. I’m so thankful. Thank you Jesus.
Grace is the spiritual lubricant that makes our journey less abrasive and it is freely given to all who ask when the path ahead seems impossible, when the terrain is too tough to climb or the river is too rough and wide. Remember God’s grace is sufficient enough. He promised that he will never leave us nor forsake (reject, abandon, betray, desert) us. No you’re never alone. He’s here! Hallelujah.
We all have rough edges, but fear not, grace will smooth them out
Listen to your body. Sometimes you just have to leave the dishes and go play. They’ll be there when you get back. Your friends came to visit with you. They didn’t come to inspect your kitchen. 😍
Fear is about punishment but LOVE DRIVES OUT FEAR.