Forgiveness is greater than vengeance. Compassion more powerful than anger.  -THOMAS MANN (Joseph, Son of Jacob -the Dreamer).

Forgiveness is like oil that allows a STATIC FREE RELATIONSHIP.  While our personal boundaries gives us room to breath. 

There’s a huge difference between knowledge and skill.   I know that forgiveness is a right thing to do. The problem is I don’t always do it right.  I say I forgive but sometimes I don’t really mean it. Why? Do you know what he/she did?  They tore the fence down, threw rocks that broke the glass windows. They kicked the door down, trashed my living room,  forced open my safe and took my money and my jewelries, spat on my face, and walked out the door without looking back. It broke my heart. This is is how I feel when someone trespasses against me.  It also cause me to pause before I react, doing my best to respect other people’s boundaries because I know how it feels to  be the topic of a prayer meeting. To forgive is to name the injury, assess the damages, count my losses. And breath. That’s what forgiveness is about • To bear the cost.

I had to learn how to forgive. Saying ‘I forgive’ without counting the cost will not do.  It took me a lot longer than I expected to effectively forgive those who demonized me. Those who betrayed my trust. Those toxic people who just want to control and manipulate to gain compliance. Those who wrongly accused me of something I didn’t do. Those who stabbed me in the back.  They did hurt me deeply. Especially those narcissistic individuals that has no capacity to reflect on their words and behaviors.  I begin by saying the words “I forgive… ” as many times as I need to complete the process. Jesus said to forgive 70×7. Its a bit much, I thought. “Repetition is the mother of learning, the father of action, which makes it the architect of accomplishment.”  Repetition trains our subconscious to forgive and develop self-awarenes.

God created our brain to rewire  itself. Neuroplasticity, also known as neural plasticity, or brain plasticity, is the ability of neural networks in the brain to change through growth and reorganization. It is when the brain is rewired to function in  new way that is not the same from how it used to function. We become new for the old has passed away. When I learned about Neuroplasticity I was  gratefully amazed. Unbelievable! God doesn’t tell us to forgive, to mature, to reorganize our thought ĺife without equipping us with tools to do so– in our brain. To bring peace to your soul.  Thank you JESUS!

You will know that forgiveness has begun when you recall those who hurt you and wish them well. Jesus said to love our enemies and pray for them. I found that something significant happens in the brain when we  pray for them. It also hasten the process of healing. It’s wonderful!

No success story is written alone and nothing significant is achieved in isolation.  We were created for relationships. And to maintain our relationships is to forgive one another — every day. We need each other.

Remember me loving you ❤

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