Love gives life the way breathing does.  You need to inhale it.  And you can’t keep it by holding it in.  There’s a rhythm to it.  It’s how we breathe and how we love too. – Jarrid Wilson, Love Oxygen

“Sometimes all I need is the air that I breath and to love you.”  as the song goes.


Premature babies need love to fight for their life and to grow physically.  Both parents are encouraged to touch the baby lightly…called patterning, to stimulate normal movement and promotes neurological development. The baby knows his mother’s voice from the womb and will thrive just hearing her voice outside.  My grandchildren were both preemies.  I remember seeing my grandson in an incubator in the neonatal ward.  He was so small.  When he and his mother came home I was afraid to hold him. His older sister I met her when she was in her eighth month of life.  But her brother made me nervous.  One day the baby had a hard time breathing so his mother unwrapped the baby from his blanket and held him close to her bare chest.  At other times, the father would hold his son to his heart.  “Skin to skin for body warmth to help the baby breath normally.”  Like David I prayed quietly, “Thank you God.  We are fearfully and wonderfully made.”

Since the 1960s, many books, articles, and online sources have encouraged parents to bond with their babies by investing more time and energy in taking care of their child.  On July 17, 1990 President George H. W. Bush and the U.S. Congress proclaimed the 1990s to be the Decade of the Brain. Children need something more than love and care giving in order for their brains and nervous systems to develop in the best way possible.  They need to feel your feelings.  They need to see your eyes filled with love and tenderness.  Be their mirrors – make a sad face when the child is sad and etc.
Children need to be able to engage in a nonverbal emotional exchange with their primary caretaker in a way that communicates their needs and makes them feel understood, secure, and balanced.  Children who feel emotionally disconnected from their caregivers are likely to feel confused, misunderstood, and insecure.

While it’s easiest to form a secure attachment bond when your child is still an infant—and reliant upon nonverbal means of communicating—you can begin to make your child feel understood and secure at any age.  Children’s brains continue maturing well into adulthood (until their mid-20s).  Still, much more, because the brain continues to change throughout life, it’s never too late to start engaging in a nonverbal emotional exchange with your child. In fact, developing your nonverbal communication skills can help improve and deepen your relationships with other people of any age.  Dr. Mario Beauregard, a Neuroscientist, in his book, The Spiritual Brain, with Denyse O’Leary report that when we grow older, our brain can reorganize (this reorganization is called “neuroplasticity”) throughout life.

To put it simply, we can affect change.  I think this is why God renews our mind with his unconditional love and grace.  We are new creation. [/restrict]