An enabler is one that enables another to achieve an end, especially : one who enables another to persist in self-destructive behavior (as substance abuse) by providing excuses or by helping that individual avoid the consequences of such behavior.
Someone I know came the other night and asked to borrow some money. She wasn’t normal. She didnt smell like alcohol. I watched her for awhile and realized she was high. I told her I don’t have any money. She ŵept as if her mother died.
My sister said, “When you give her money you’re just an a
Enabler. It felt as if she just slapped me.
Her grandparents were alcoholic. She became alcoholic too. Lately she came to ask if she can borrow $20. My sister said that I’m being fooled. She’s using drugs and I should stop enabling her addictions- beer and ice. Her children are no longer with her.
The stories of children of drug addicts. Please share with your families, relatives, and friends.
Parental Substance Abuse and Child Abuse and Neglect
A parent with a SUD (substance Use disorder) is 3 times more likely to physically or sexually abuse their child. The sequalae of this is that these children are more than 50% more likely to be arrested as juveniles, and 40% more likely to commit a violent crime.
No one knew what was happening until the house was raided.
An addict shared this with me-her experiences of being neglected as a child are with her every day. No one was there most of the time and, even when they were there, they weren’t properly there as they were out of it. It was just hell.
Mom wouldn’t even notice whether I had or hadn’t gone to school as she was always in her room smashed out of her face. I wanted to go to school as I didn’t want a life like my parents. I had tried to speak to schools but they thought that because I was the good kid there wasn’t really that much going on.
I think that children who are neglected might have a second life when they are at school or with their friends because if you can put a smile on your face and pretend that everything is OK then for a minute you can even fool yourself into thinking that everything is OK.
“I was often left by myself and I felt so lonely. I even felt lonely when mum or dad were in the house because they just weren’t there, like mentally they were completely out of it.”
I often felt low and one of my lowest points was when I tried to go and speak to my mom and dad about their drug use. They denied it all and just kept yelling and yelling, so I left. I didn’t know what I was going to do, it was like everyone hated me and thought I was lying and I felt that I was completely alone. It felt completely hopeless. I took an overdose as I felt there was no way out. I wanted them to listen to me.”
She told me that she didn’t know how she lived through it. Maybe God has a plan for me. I only know I need to get outta there.