The boy was confused but she insisted so the boy hit his mother and saw blood coming out of his mother’s nose. Then she told her son, “Now get back in there and play.” She was teaching her son how to recover from the pain of life
One of the greatest powers a woman possess is her ability to nurture. When this is missing in the home, a child lacks the ability to comfort and encourage themselves. To find the root of rejection spirit in your heart is to go deep into our upbringing with a safe person or with God. Some of you had a good mother who nurtured you growing up. But in all honesty, many children grew up without that loving nurture to comforting you, kissing your booboo saying you’re going to be all right.
Nurture is the manifestation of love that brings comfort, coping and recovery from hard times. It restores our emotional capacity, especially after we go through a tough season. When you’re outside and scrape your knee, who do you go to? Mom. When you had a hard day at school, you run to mom because she was designed to tell you that everything is going to be okay. I heard man tell his story when he was six-year-old. He was playing football. The ball landed on his face causing so much pain. He ran to his mother tears flowing down his face. His mother ran to him, knelt to an eye level of her boy, wiped his tears and hugged him. Then she looked at her boy in the eye and said, “Now hit me on the nose.” The boy was confused but she insisted so the boy hit his mother and saw blood coming out of his mother’s nose. Then she told her son, “Now get back in there and play.” She was teaching her son how to recover from the pain of life.
God deposited a great deal of His nurture into the heart of a female. Nurture of a child begins in the mother’s womb. And continues through birth, breastfeeding, cooing, and wooing—speaking to the heart of her baby. They are bonding. This will help the child to trust, to hope, and to love. The child gets their worth from their mother and identify from their father.
Those (men and women) who have mother wounds lack nurture and often struggle to emotionally bounce back from hardship. They don’t know how to comfort themselves and can easily struggle with moods swings — “high maintenance” individuals. Battles of the mind can become a lot harder for those who had moms that were manipulative, cold or overly strict. They can experience emotional instability, confusion and double-mindedness. For example, house parties’ invitations came… Cultural conditioning keeps you stuck and mother wound plague you with guilt, and you will constantly struggle being hard on yourself. You reason and say– I can always borrow from a friend or a relative to make do until next payday — going in circles with no destination in sight.
My intention is not to place blame, but to identify and recognize your mother wounds that keep you stuck. There’s no perfect mother, and this is not about your mother. It is about your heart. God can get to the root of that pain and heal the wound and lead you to freedom. Our way of life does not agree with our cultural conditioning. You decide. Something’s gotta give. And it begins in the heart.