“The Drama of the Gifted Child” is a title of a great little book by Alice Miller. The book is very special to me. It liberated me from victimhood (self-pity) onto a survivor. It set me free to be me, not just surviving but free to thrive. Freedom in Christ takes you from a survivor to be fully human and fully alive. To thrive as you were created to be. It helped develop my ability to appreciate my existence and in the process enlarged the capacity to understand everything that happened to me on the way here [today]. Long journey – still ongoing process. The body remembers all the pain of the soul which willl eventually catch up later as Post Traumatic Syndrome Disorder (PTSD) and Complex PTSD.
Many of us had to learn as children to hide our own feelings, needs, and memories skillfully in order to meet our parents’ expectations and win their “love.” Alice Miller writes, “When I used the word ‘gifted’ in the title, I had in mind neither children who receive high grades in school nor children talented in a special way. I simply meant all of us who have survived an abusive childhood thanks to an ability to adapt even to unspeakable cruelty by becoming numb…. Without this ‘gift’ offered us by nature, we would not have survived.” But merely surviving is not enough. The Drama of the Gifted Child helps us to reclaim our life by discovering our own crucial needs and our own truth.”
If we fear the truth from being disclosed and live only on intellectual wisdom, we become illusive, living a lie. It’s not easy to maintain the illusion. History sneaks in everywhere and mess us up. Thus facing the truth transcends us.
November is domestic violence awareness month. And its ìmportant to remind ourselves to be a little kinder to each other and to our children.The illusion that we come from a perfect home is in my opinion the cause so many personality disorder. A personality disorder is a type of mental disorder in which you have a rigid and unhealthy pattern of thinking, functioning and behaving. A person with a personality disorder has trouble perceiving and relating to situations and people. I used to think I can argue and convince one to see the truth. I have found that It’s impossible with personality disorder . I found its better to be silent and let things flow as they may. Pray for them and hopefully they’ll understand and change.
I’m so thankful to the Gifted Child in each and everyone of us that was able to survive cruelty and became not only survivors but made something of our lives.
Someone writes “Each marginalized child, abandoned by his or her family, without schooling, without healthcare, is a cry! A cry that rises up to God and shames the system that we adults have built.” It’s our responsibility to help these children. It begins with a smile.